my husband married another woman islam

(2) The lady is trying to get her daughter married. Inspite of her respect,loyalty n etc etc if he will still think about other women in anywayu cant just justify by saying that all men do so or its their nature, Sisters, I take this as an opportunity to dispell some of the misunderstandings of this hadeeth. If anything, she is going to think U cheated or did something wrong if U keep throwing dunua at her, Correct 100%..if the above post is giving u everything with reference and inspite of this you are not accepting it means you are zionistand woman dont make your own rules and laws this world is hell due to yours silly thinkings got it, Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidh 1141, Grade: Sahih That he comes with one of his sides collapsed is a representation of the unbalanced manner in which he treated his co-wives. This post is general, it doesnt work on husbands who are unfair with their wives. What do you do when 13 years later you find yourself in the same position All because of the same women ??? Zakkiya http://www.muslimommy.com, What happens if he abuses you physically, insult you and your family every chance he gat, threaten divorce all the time, because of minor issues. Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded. Then he came to him a second time, and he forbade it. Good advice, but zowji doesnt like sandwhiches! By Abu Ibrahim Ismail I think every good Muslim husband understands his wifes problem and will not be angry if wife has some problem. I agree with her. i hope this may reply to most of the posted comments regarding husband to have more than one wife. Get to know the conditions required for it to be healthy and practiced properly. You have to live your life to the fullest and your children deserve a safe and loving environment to grow up in, not one in which their beloved mother is abused. I appreciate your responses! :(. to be frank I think many muslim men prefer to have mistresses rather than remarrya man who agrees to remarry and to take the responsibility of another woman in my opinion is very courageous..personally I will prefer my husband have a second wife rather than having many short affairs,,,,, many sisters are not even aware that their husbands are cheating on them.. nice article.ma sha Allahdescribed very beutifully in concise way..wud recommend every1 even to watch sk.yasir qadhi lectures somewhere on youtube like a garment coursejust alhamdulillah awesome.beautifully explained..both for men and women,,,,:). Out of them, nadima was married for four years. ALLAH says us many things to do and each an everything for our betterment. (second) marriage will make him more chaste and prevent him from doing Your email address will not be published. That hadith is BOGUS. Men have distorted Islam to the point its unrecognisable. Jazaakallahu khayran. I only protected what was mine. My husband and I have been married for a long time. Give them a life of good and worth living. Plain and simple. And that resentment will build up and may lead to him being unnecessarily mean to you or losing some love. Maybe even noble- of mind in the very least. Wish we could all just treat each other with respect and be honest/sincere with each other, instead of playing games and lying. dont make up hadiths urself. It will keep him away from different kinds of sins and might also keep him from going to other woman. Sharing my husband with another woman. No one likes to be preached to.But if you do this right, youll be getting a double reward: The reward that comes with living with a righteous husband. This pattern may be repeated when you are Perhaps you noticed something about your husband's behavior in real life, which triggered your suspicion in a dream. Does the husband need the first wifes permission to have a second wife? This is a great article about men and how to keep your husband happy but why is there never any mention of how to keep a woman happy and what a man can do for a woman? To use the same rules for the current century really doesnt make sense. Below is one of the hadith narrated. (Imam al-Bukhari ). Shaina i advice u 2 believe totally in Allahs word otherwise u will be among unbeliever, Allah as d creator know what is good us, Man are allow 2 marry more than one wife and we all see how female are very very Plenty than male i pray u will not be among 39 or 40s years ladie who av not sure of a particular man. (960 A.D to 1030 A.D) issued an edict against it. A Muslim mans guide is the Prophet peace be upon him. A man who wants to do a second marriage, it means he keeps the womans honor. Why do you think men work so hard to make money? For some women, polygamy is a deal breaker no matter. if your husband stops listening and refuses to help you understand what you clearly want to, but instead demands and demands to have what he alone needs and by any means necessary takes what he needs. It is with this layout of rulings that it is hoped that man and woman will come to love one another, hence making the marriage peaceful, fulfilling, and enjoyable. Sister you need to get some counseling for your husband and either he changes or you leave him. sex and bearing children are the biggest rights of men in marriage. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Well done. His age 31. I have a problem maybe you can help.hubby n I have been married since 4years.we were really happy. It says in the Reliance of the Traveller, "The husband of a woman who bears a child (0: no matter whether his marriage to her is valid or invalid) is considered to be the child's father whenever it is (N: legally) possible that the child could be his, meaning that: (a) the woman gave birth to the child six months plus a moment after the . I liked him and I liked everything about him. I have no idea how all this happened but it happened and believe me it wasnt easy for me. Do not punish, condemn, and boycott your wives. Yes I used to have fights with my husband on pity things because he was not giving me the love I wanted I wanted his care I wanted him to see I stay home all alone I go frustrated n crazy. This article is so sexist its hilarious. Handsome. Surah Mujadilah (58) Read it. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. She said she never saw it coming because. nothn. good points you wrote, but in reality, you havent married. There are many instances in which a man may choose to marry another woman. In the very same verse it is stated clearly that if a man cannot treat his wives with equity, he should not marry more than one woman. I have conferted to muslim 15 years now As Mohammed Mynul Islam said, and he (the husband) spends the night angry.. Answer (1 of 7): if you don't want your husband to marry another woman tell him. Make sure you marry a good person that will oblige to your wishes that is all. Does everyone here agree with #4? Her patience in putting up with her husbands marrying a Asw Allah also gave rights to women also if she dont except his husbands second wife she can ask for divorce and do marriage again. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. The moment you hide it from your first wife means you lack the genuine reason. wake up to your self. i am too selfish when is comes to my husband. up his family? Very few. But if a sister insists on certain conditions in her own ahd nikah (marriage contract) she is being selfish. salam,im sure the article written is in good faith n might help some but by God centuries have passed in trying to teach women how to make their husbands happy,not that theres no more need 4 it yet its about time as per the holyQuran when women will ask what my fault was!!! And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error. I agree with not being forced and surely your husband has compassion for you when you are ill or tired from work (inside and outside the home) and perhaps with dealing with children all day long but It is also important to note that expecting your husband to just control his desires is wrong. Encourage him to make Salaah at the Masjid. im a young muslimah and reading most of your posts has upsetted me you all in eachothers hair you can give advice yes but if you do it with attitude even if you right allah will not reward you for the advice you have given im not one to judge for Allah is the judge of all imperfetions..im human and by reading all these posts it has scared me for the way you guys dont respect the law of islam and how selfish some woman is may allah put it in your hearts to accept whatever difficulties lies ahead for you and bear in mind allah will never put i through something we wont be able to handle for allah is mercifull and you sould accept and respect all trails that comes your way repend to allah and allah will help you accept this matter unshallahin the name of allah may we help eachother other then going off at one onother remember no one is perfect but we can always try and help the next person inshallah.. il make duah for all wives that feels this way about this law il make duah for allah to grant you the guidance to soften your hearts to grant you wisdom and to give you the ghidiah to repend inshallah ameen may allah increase our knowledge and forgive us our sins ameen. Thats what life is. Intention to worship and remember Allah taala. How can he trust you if you You may want to read aboutRight Ways How to be Closer to Allah SWT. During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. If he loves you enough he is not gonna be thinking of considering another wife or another woman even for a second. Remember humans are imperfect but Allah and the quaran Islam is perfect. Im tired of hearing these excuses that men make for themselves. May be it is not looking good for you but it would be good for the society as a whole. The difference is of course in the idea that what we do is more for the sake of Allah Taaalaa than for ourselves. He never read Esha namaaz that night, because he never woke up. You should choose for yourself a man who is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him)classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi. I will never accept a second wife! @Marij Usmani i`m sleeping alone. Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. He will most likely never consider a second wife. I will not stand for it! Dont use any abusive word to express your feelings. Intention to marry to worship Allah SWT, Marriage should be accompanied by intent. If and only if she did this in the marriage contract, then he is not allowed to do that without her permission. 2 If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and the marrying someone other than her husband when she is still married to her Asalam o Alakum Am I guessing right to say he is not legal in your county ? We are a happy couple and have a beautiful family life. If you (men) want to do a second marriage. Bukhari and Muslim 2) It clearly says if the man sleeps angry, then she will be cursed. This is what I am afraid of. If a woman refuses to have sex with husband and he understands why she is refusing to then she is not sinning. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. I would rather say dont even feel. Shame on these people. Seek safe counsel. I believe you know the wisdom behind this command of Allah swt. Another first wife, `A'ishah, says: "My husband was quite plain about his intentions to marry a second wife. To be clear, no religion does anything on its own. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) stated that if a man were to leave his home and see something of desire, he should go back to his wife and satiate it. yes we look 4 men who r followers of the great nabi not the followers of devil n their so called peer preasures . good advice. But not when normal conditions exist. Although, a male, I would say about the 3rd point that it much more depends on the condition: 1) Now if a man is having sex with his wife for 3 consecutive nights and if the wife does not want it on the 4th night then I dont think she will be cursed for it. man destroy your life and your family. After all, as Muslims, we SUBMIT our will to ALLAAHs. I started praying Istikhara that night. Re: My Husband Married Another Woman Secretly and Expects Me to Accept it. Am I not good enough? Why is a man allowed to marry more than one wife in Islam? or If you only learn to use it properly. Beat her. continue to befall the believer, man or woman, concerning himself, his child It is well known that women are by nature jealous and reluctant to share their husband with other women. Thankyou. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives. Divorce does not mean divorce. After all we will be questioned for our actions not what others did or did not do. we believe in the whole of the book and accept Allah swts rule even if we cant fully understand it because He knows us better than we know ourselves.